Comments for Always Marsha

Comment on Dear Friend Crush, by Caitlin

Caitlin — Sat, 07 May 2011 04:51:37 +0000

Okay girl. Obviously this guy likes you. If you don’t want your friendship to be ruined just asked him if he ever had or still does have feelings for you. I know he likes you because, he always texts you first. You video chat sometimes for hours on end. If you really like him you’ll take the chance in asking him. If he says no just blow it off like you never even asked and reply in a simple answer like “that’s fine.” or “I was just wondering.” GOOD LUCK (:

Comment on Dear Nikki: by Stacy

Stacy — Mon, 18 Apr 2011 14:10:48 +0000

I don’t think you are alone in this Nikki. Many other people out there have done the same things to their families, and have felt just as bad about it as you do. I can not tell you how many times I have lashed out at my husband in a way that I would never do to anyone else. It sometimes seems like we treat strangers with a greater respect than those who mean the world to us. I think a good start would be for you to apologize to the people you have done this to. They’ll appreciate your honesty and recognition to the fact that you know this is happening, and deeply regret it. Let them know you are making a concerted effort to be more positive and supportive. You’ll be so surprised at their graciousness, they’ll make the transition for you much easier, and be there to help catch you on the days/times when you might falter.

Comment on Mother in-law finally intrudes by Stacy

Stacy — Mon, 18 Apr 2011 13:56:25 +0000

I totally agree that having a house guest can at times be an inconvenience, especially if it is someone who insists on going against your wishes of them using the guestroom as opposed to turning your living room into their bedroom. I also understand the importance of having your partner support you and your request, with the intent of a united front. However, in this instance, put yourself in your partner’s mother’s shoes. She’s in an unfamiliar environment away from all of her creature comforts. As we get older, we all have the comforts of home that we can’t find anywhere else, even at the nicest hotels. Your mother-in-law is just trying to acclimate herself to sleeping in a different place in the most comforting way she can, and that unfortunately for you, is on your couch. Although I do understand why you are upset at her for not utilizing the guest room, and for your partner not supporting you and your request, I think it is best to leave this alone and not make an issue out of it. Your mother-in-law will only be there for a short time, and then it is life as usual. I say that for the few nights she’s there, let her be as comfortable as possible, and don’t let the chance of rifts or tension arise between you and your partner as a result from something like this. Just roll with it, and pick your battles carefully. Interceding between a partner and their parent(s) is a surefire way to build tension in a happy home. Hang in there, and good luck!

Comment on Dear Wondering In Kentucky, by skyisabella

skyisabella — Fri, 08 Apr 2011 20:59:38 +0000

I suggest even though you may think she doesnt know it chance are she does, but she likes you too so she is being shy. That is why neither one of ya’ll will confront each other about it. Just wait till ya’ll are alone, and bring it up.

Comment on ProSmoke Day 1 by bonnie

bonnie — Wed, 06 Apr 2011 17:30:56 +0000

What a coincidence! I also have a ProSmoke and LOOOOOVE mine. Havent smoked a real cig in about 2 months.

Comment on Dear Callie by Callie

Callie — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 02:11:21 +0000

Thanks for the advice Marsha. I appreciate you taking the time to respond. I guess I’ll be talking to Kayla tomorrow. Thanks alot

Comment on Mother in-law finally intrudes by Stacey

Stacey — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 03:02:00 +0000

I totally understand how you feel about the couch, the ONE request, etc. But I want to share something with you.
I lost my mother when I was 24 years old. At this point, with all the things I’ve lost, I miss my mom the most.

Now, so many other things that seemed so BIG, I can’t even remember them all. If your mate means as much to you as what you display on this site, honor her by honoring her mother and let the rest take care of itself.

Don’t lose something great over this short period of inconvenience.
Sometimes there are no second chances.

Comment on Mother in-law finally intrudes by zaundra

zaundra — Thu, 17 Feb 2011 07:29:09 +0000

loneliness is not the only reason a person could prefer the couch.there are also health considerations for prefering a couch.if i dont sleep with my head raised i quit breathing in my sleep.a couch arm and pillow solve that problem perfectly.she may have physical problems that she does not want to share with you. if you have had no problems with her in twenty five years,why start one now.its just a holiday visit.a very short time to have to share the couch.so what if your computer is in the living room.are you doing something on it that you dont want anyone to know about.she would be the one putting up with others in her sleeping area.if her daughter co-owns this house she has the right to allow her mom to use that room without your permission. the silence you are experiencing could very well be that your partner is re-evaluating her relationship with you.

Comment on Dear Jon by Miki

Miki — Sun, 28 Nov 2010 22:16:13 +0000

Hi,
First to say that I just discovered this site today, and am so impressed with Marsha’s advice. She takes each possibility [even the ones not seen by the asker] and basically dissects it.

Your post, Jon brought me nearly to tears. Freshman year is so hard under any circumstance, and you have so much to deal with. I truly hope you find the start of the solution. I can also say I too once had to move from larger, interesting cities to the middle of nowhere [my father was 30 years enlisted in the Marines so lots of moving]. It’s possible you will find truly different, interesting friends out there in the nowhere land. Don’t be too fast to judge life out there! Also, to have the crushing weight of the past drama and the routine of the same kids who treat you abusively, removed from your life, that in itself will be so liberating for you. You can wake up every day without that heavy feeling of dread, instead you will have new experiences of new people. Whatever happens, you sound like an amazingly resourceful and intelligent young man. I wish you all the best. Miki

Comment on Dear Sam by Addylyn

Addylyn — Wed, 24 Nov 2010 00:23:53 +0000

I realise that this post is over a year old, I just discovered this site and was looking through some of the posts. I would just like to say that I don’t think that at 13, kids should be dating. It leads to too much unnecissary drama and emotional pain too early. In fact, most people’s personalities aren’t even fully developed until they are around 16 years old. No one has to agree with what I am saying because it’s just my opinion.