Dear Marsha,
For the past 4 months now, my husband has not had any proper relations with me. We try, but every time we get to that point, he goes down like he is no longer interested. It makes me feel like he is no longer interested or attracted to me. I want to know what I can do to help him out. He does seem to feel a bit ashamed of it happening, but instead of talking to me about it, he just grabs his pillow and heads off to the other room.
We have been together for 5 years now and nothing like this has ever happened before. I seriously doubt he is getting some on the side either because when he is not at work, he is here at home with me.
Thank you,
Lovingly Concerned
Dear Lovingly Concerned,
It worries me that your husband feels so ashamed of his performance that he feels he does not even wish to be around you and heads off to the other room. To me, I think he feels like a disappointment and thinks that you are or will be upset with him. He clearly feels embarrassed and let down himself.
I think he is interested and attracted to you, because he still tries to be with you even risking the chance that it could be another disappointment to himself and you. This shows he does love you and is wanting to please you.
This situation can sometimes happen for many reasons either physically, psychologically, or from lifestyle events. I think you may find the following link useful for more information:
http://www.impotence-guide.com/impotence-causes.html
I would suggest talking to him as lovingly as you can. Let him know that you are not mad and are willing to help. Perhaps you and your husband should consider seeing a doctor for this problem if it continues.
Always,
Marsha
