Dear bearer of Gifts
Happy Holidays Marsha,
I have a question for you that concerns Christmas shopping. A member of my family has repeatedly insisted that since money is tight for everyone, that we not buy him/her a gift. I know that they mean well, but I can’t see leaving them out. This family member will be here for Christmas day and I don’t want them to be the only one not unwrapping gifts under the tree.
Is it wrong to buy them a gift? Will they feel sourly toward me for doing so anyways?
Thanks for your time on this matter,
Bearer of Gifts
Dear bearer of Gifts,
I do not feel that he/she will have any hurt feelings toward you for buying them a gift. They are simply trying to look out for you and your expenses. What they are really saying is “I know you love me, and I know you would like to buy everyone something nice, but save your money and use it for your kids, bills, or somewhere of value.”
We do not have to have gifts to make it a nice Christmas. the family being together under the same roof is often the best gift ever for most people. If you wish for them to unwrap a gift or gifts as a surprise, you don’t have to go all out and buy something really expensive. Try to keep it simple, and maybe buy something you know they could use or need. Another option could be to make them something from the heart. Maybe even an additional option would be to have a family photo taken. If you have any brothers or sisters, when was the last time you had photographs made with all of you together? If he/she has several grandchildren, perhaps you could get them all together for a photo. Then, place one of these photos in a frame and give as a gift.
Always,
Marsha
