Comments on: Dear Angela: http://alwaysmarsha.com/2009/11/04/dear-angela/ Free Online Advice Column Sat, 07 May 2011 04:51:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: brandonhttp://alwaysmarsha.com/2009/11/04/dear-angela/comment-page-1/#comment-63 brandon Sat, 02 Jan 2010 17:46:18 +0000 http://alwaysmarsha.com/?p=744#comment-63 George put up with my woohah for so long I consider him a friend and sorry I got on his nerves. You know I like to give him and you a hard time :). But on to business this trucker guy and the abusers and the abusive poster thing. If we was still where me, you, and your special flame that is a trully wonderful man as I remember putting up with my bulllarkey lol. If we were still there I would gladly take another perm mute if you catch my drift.... :). Peace to you dear. Melissa you're lucky to know Marsha close hand I wish I had more people in my life like her. :) many blessings, Brandon sorry about the smiley faces. No one else uses them I think but you gotta admit I follow rules good. :) George put up with my woohah for so long I consider him a friend and sorry I got on his nerves. You know I like to give him and you a hard time :) . But on to business this trucker guy and the abusers and the abusive poster thing. If we was still where me, you, and your special flame that is a trully wonderful man as I remember putting up with my bulllarkey lol. If we were still there I would gladly take another perm mute if you catch my drift…. :) . Peace to you dear. Melissa you’re lucky to know Marsha close hand I wish I had more people in my life like her. :) many blessings, Brandon sorry about the smiley faces. No one else uses them I think but you gotta admit I follow rules good. :)

]]> By: Jackhttp://alwaysmarsha.com/2009/11/04/dear-angela/comment-page-1/#comment-57 Jack Sat, 07 Nov 2009 03:23:07 +0000 http://alwaysmarsha.com/?p=744#comment-57 Awesome reply Marsha. I see too many people opening their mouths and inserting size 12's before stopping to think or better yet investigating a little deeper to find the real truth. If what you said about her/them finding out so much about you in such a short time is true, then maybe she/they should have used that time to contact you directly. Maybe this all comes from her own insecurities and who wouldn't be jealous over someone as beautiful as you are on the inside and out. BTW: I am glad you are all feeling better and writing again. Awesome reply Marsha. I see too many people opening their mouths and inserting size 12′s before stopping to think or better yet investigating a little deeper to find the real truth. If what you said about her/them finding out so much about you in such a short time is true, then maybe she/they should have used that time to contact you directly. Maybe this all comes from her own insecurities and who wouldn’t be jealous over someone as beautiful as you are on the inside and out. BTW: I am glad you are all feeling better and writing again.

]]> By: Kevin Wuhttp://alwaysmarsha.com/2009/11/04/dear-angela/comment-page-1/#comment-56 Kevin Wu Fri, 06 Nov 2009 23:38:52 +0000 http://alwaysmarsha.com/?p=744#comment-56 (: you go, Marsha! (: you go, Marsha!

]]> By: Melissahttp://alwaysmarsha.com/2009/11/04/dear-angela/comment-page-1/#comment-55 Melissa Thu, 05 Nov 2009 13:23:55 +0000 http://alwaysmarsha.com/?p=744#comment-55 Marsha, I feel that was very adult of you to answer that openly on your website. What was said was very derogatory and childish. I was around when your kids were little and you were always working. You were a very good mom to your kids and that's all that matters. I think some people just like to make themselves sound very childish. We will always stand by you! Marsha,
I feel that was very adult of you to answer that openly on your website. What was said was very derogatory and childish. I was around when your kids were little and you were always working. You were a very good mom to your kids and that’s all that matters. I think some people just like to make themselves sound very childish. We will always stand by you!

]]> By: Marshahttp://alwaysmarsha.com/2009/11/04/dear-angela/comment-page-1/#comment-54 Marsha Wed, 04 Nov 2009 23:21:50 +0000 http://alwaysmarsha.com/?p=744#comment-54 Dear Angela,I find it hard to think that you did not mean to say anything derogatory when you deliberately point out that I have been around the Block or two and the statement about my kids having different fathers. You also mentioned that I should get a job or two to support my child, and that I was hard up for money.I can assure you that I have always worked. When I met K**, I was working making $10.00 an hour at Olan Mills. Back then that was really great pay!As far as K** not knowing about this child, he did know. I know because I am the one that told him on Christmas Eve as he left my house to go to his moms. Then in March, he was located in the state you live in now. He called me and asked me to come up. With it cold and snowy, I made that drive by myself and my youngest son at that time. When he was introducing me to another female friend of his, she had commented on my pooch of a tummy. I made the comment that K** was the father...K** stopped me and said "Well we don't know that for a fact" and all was dropped. I lived in the same house for 4 more years, and not once did I get a phone call or a visit. He did know he was possibly a father, but he did not want this. As for the letters, I sent him photos from the time B****** was born. I of course only had his mothers address, but none of which were returned to me. K** made a respectable decision in not enforcing the visitations. S*** did not know much of anything about K**, and for all justifiable reasons too. He does think of my current husband as being the father he always wanted, and is happy. We call B****** by his middle name too. S*** has not had the desire to see K** because he did leave once he discovered I was pregnant and the fact that he did deny the child being his before birth. I have often asked S*** if he was sure he didn't want to see his real dad, because I was sure this time would come. As K** said, we will leave it up to S***. I am glad that he has been great to you and your son. The road of life is a difficult one for us all at times. Things happen for a reason, and we just have to leave it up to God. My personal email address is marsha@alwaysmarsha.com You are welcome to write there instead of passing this information back and forth here. We really do have the lingering question of how you found out so much about us in such short time...lol. We also took strong note that K** was aware of his child, and still did not even send a simple birthday card last month. This could have been part of giving time to adjust, but in my opinion, if he wanted to be his dad, he would have at least sent a card. That would have been a good start. I can assure you that I will always be an adult with this situation. I do have an abnormally large sense of humor, but this is not a topic of laughter at all. Dear Angela,

I find it hard to think that you did not mean to say anything derogatory when you deliberately point out that I have been around the Block or two and the statement about my kids having different fathers. You also mentioned that I should get a job or two to support my child, and that I was hard up for money.

I can assure you that I have always worked. When I met K**, I was working making $10.00 an hour at Olan Mills. Back then that was really great pay!

As far as K** not knowing about this child, he did know. I know because I am the one that told him on Christmas Eve as he left my house to go to his moms. Then in March, he was located in the state you live in now. He called me and asked me to come up. With it cold and snowy, I made that drive by myself and my youngest son at that time. When he was introducing me to another female friend of his, she had commented on my pooch of a tummy. I made the comment that K** was the father…K** stopped me and said “Well we don’t know that for a fact” and all was dropped.
I lived in the same house for 4 more years, and not once did I get a phone call or a visit. He did know he was possibly a father, but he did not want this.
As for the letters, I sent him photos from the time B****** was born. I of course only had his mothers address, but none of which were returned to me.
K** made a respectable decision in not enforcing the visitations. S*** did not know much of anything about K**, and for all justifiable reasons too. He does think of my current husband as being the father he always wanted, and is happy. We call B****** by his middle name too. S*** has not had the desire to see K** because he did leave once he discovered I was pregnant and the fact that he did deny the child being his before birth. I have often asked S*** if he was sure he didn’t want to see his real dad, because I was sure this time would come. As K** said, we will leave it up to S***.
I am glad that he has been great to you and your son. The road of life is a difficult one for us all at times. Things happen for a reason, and we just have to leave it up to God.
My personal email address is marsha@alwaysmarsha.com
You are welcome to write there instead of passing this information back and forth here.
We really do have the lingering question of how you found out so much about us in such short time…lol.
We also took strong note that K** was aware of his child, and still did not even send a simple birthday card last month. This could have been part of giving time to adjust, but in my opinion, if he wanted to be his dad, he would have at least sent a card. That would have been a good start.
I can assure you that I will always be an adult with this situation. I do have an abnormally large sense of humor, but this is not a topic of laughter at all.

]]> By: Angelahttp://alwaysmarsha.com/2009/11/04/dear-angela/comment-page-1/#comment-53 Angela Wed, 04 Nov 2009 22:37:35 +0000 http://alwaysmarsha.com/?p=744#comment-53 I am so sorry that you feel I have said anything derogiatory about you! I was just stating the facts that I knew. As for my husband, the father of your third child, he is an awesome man!! We have been married for 14 and a half years. He has been a wonderful father to our son I am sure he would have been a great father to yours, I know you probably wont believe this but I can assure you he never received any letters or pictures of the child, we did not live close to his family and they never informed us about any letters or pictures. That will be something we will be asking them about. I am so sorry for this because if we had known I can tell you we would have been a part of his life if you would have allowed it. I am very happy that you have found true love and I wish you would have found it sooner. I found it when I found ***** and we have been together every since and the road has not been easy for us either. The only reason we asked about adoption is because we could not figure out how this child had your husbands last name when you had only been married a couple of years. It is so sad to hear that your son thinks his biological father is a loser because I can tell you he would have been proud to have had him as a father. That is one reason why ***** agreed to no visitation because he didnt know what all the child knew and didnt want to disrupt his life. He was giving us all time to adjust to the situation and then see if the child did indeed want to meet him but he wanted to leave that up to *******!! As long as we all act like adults we can see where this leads, I wont lie it was a very hard thing for me to handle and if and when I get to know you a little better I will give you a little more insight to us! I am so sorry that you feel I have said anything derogiatory about you! I was just stating the facts that I knew. As for my husband, the father of your third child, he is an awesome man!! We have been married for 14 and a half years. He has been a wonderful father to our son I am sure he would have been a great father to yours, I know you probably wont believe this but I can assure you he never received any letters or pictures of the child, we did not live close to his family and they never informed us about any letters or pictures. That will be something we will be asking them about. I am so sorry for this because if we had known I can tell you we would have been a part of his life if you would have allowed it. I am very happy that you have found true love and I wish you would have found it sooner. I found it when I found ***** and we have been together every since and the road has not been easy for us either. The only reason we asked about adoption is because we could not figure out how this child had your husbands last name when you had only been married a couple of years. It is so sad to hear that your son thinks his biological father is a loser because I can tell you he would have been proud to have had him as a father. That is one reason why ***** agreed to no visitation because he didnt know what all the child knew and didnt want to disrupt his life. He was giving us all time to adjust to the situation and then see if the child did indeed want to meet him but he wanted to leave that up to *******!! As long as we all act like adults we can see where this leads, I wont lie it was a very hard thing for me to handle and if and when I get to know you a little better I will give you a little more insight to us!

]]> By: Liamhttp://alwaysmarsha.com/2009/11/04/dear-angela/comment-page-1/#comment-52 Liam Wed, 04 Nov 2009 20:57:52 +0000 http://alwaysmarsha.com/?p=744#comment-52 Marsha, people that dont know anything about you but yet say hurtful things to or about you are just as bad as the people that you've mentioned in this post! I'll stand by you and hopfully so will your readers!God bless you , the united states , the united kingdom and all the readers on this site! Marsha, people that dont know anything about you but yet say hurtful things to or about you are just as bad as the people that you’ve mentioned in this post! I’ll stand by you and hopfully so will your readers!

God bless you , the united states , the united kingdom and all the readers on this site!

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