Dear Marsha,
I am 13 years old and my dad will still refuse to let me date. Everyone at my school has been on a date, why should I be any different? I get made fun of because I can’t go out with this boy that really likes me. Is there anything I can do to change my dads mind?
Thank you,
Sam
Dear Sam,
I can understand how you feel about wanting to go out on a date. However, as an adult, I can also see why your dad does not wish for you to date at your age. He is not saying “No” to be mean, he just simply does not wish for you to be put in harms way. Dating can be dangerous for young girls. When you are left alone with a guy, many things can happen that you may not be emotionally prepared for at your age.
My suggestion would be group dating. Try setting up an event where your friends can all go to a public place for an evening. You could choose from roller or ice skating, Laser tag arenas, your local YMCA, An arcade or game room, miniature golf, or any other place that is safe and open to the public. I did not mention the theater because I know many parents are against those as well because you would be left sitting next to a boy in the dark with little supervision.
This could be a good start for your dating desires. I think going this route will make your dad feel more at ease, your friends stop being cruel by teasing you, and you will feel much happier knowing you have a little more freedom.
Always,
Marsha
I realise that this post is over a year old, I just discovered this site and was looking through some of the posts. I would just like to say that I don’t think that at 13, kids should be dating. It leads to too much unnecissary drama and emotional pain too early. In fact, most people’s personalities aren’t even fully developed until they are around 16 years old. No one has to agree with what I am saying because it’s just my opinion.