Dear Marsha,
My wife says I am not romantic. What is romantic? I have taken her out to eat at nice restaurants, and I tell her daily that I love her, but I am still not considered romantic.
Please Help,
Hopeless Romantic
Dear Hopeless Romantic,
There is indeed hope for your romance. Romance by definition includes: Displaying or expressing Love or Strong Affection, Ardent, Passionate, and Fervent.
In the fast paced world we live in today, it can be difficult to always be romantic. With some help, you will find what you need to be considered romantic, and hopefully put it to use 3 or 4 times a month.
A few suggestions could be:
Bring her home flowers just because you saw them and thought of her.
Leave her little love notes in her brief case or on the refrigerator door for her to find later in the day.
Light a few candles before dinner with some low mood music going on in the background.
Cuddle with her while watching a movie of her choice, and stroke her hair or rub her arm while laying there together.
PDA or Public Display of Affection is great as well. Don’t be afraid to hold her hand or give her a little kiss while out in public. This shows that you are not afraid to let the world know you love her.
Plan a picnic with her. You prepare all the food, and take her somewhere with nice scenery, lay out the blanket, and treat her really special for the day. While drinking your wine or soda, wrap your arms around one another as you see in movies.
There are so many ways that one could be a little romantic. It would be impossible to list all the things you could do to try. Girls consider things that make them go “Ahhh” “Isn’t that cute” or “Isn’t that sweet” to be romantic.
I will warn you of a few ideas that are NOT romantic. Sports, hunting, fishing, appliances, tools, Action Adventure movies, Passing gas, or talking about the size of your growth are all no no’s in the romance department.
I came across a really good site that explains romance in a funny yet sensable way by Samuel Stoddard. Please check it out and I am sure it will give you a more in depth insight on Romance.
http://www.rinkworks.com/romantic/
I really hope this all helps you to understand what a woman means when she asks you to be a little romantic.
Always,
Marsha
Maybe she’s got a different concept of romanticism? Asking wouldn’t hurt
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