Dear Marsha,
About a month ago I met this man that is so incredible. We have dated every weekend since we met. He is so good looking and funny and he makes me feel good about myself by always calling me beautiful.
The trouble is, every time I call his cell phone, I always get his voice mail. He never returns any of my calls until late at night and then complains about how tired he is and hangs up telling me he will see me on Friday. I know he works for a law firm and that could be stressful, but does this sound funny to you?
Questionable
Dear Questionable,
The first thing that came to my mind was he is married. Attorneys that I know work office hours. Sure they may bring some big cases home with them to work on, but I doubt he is tired each and everyday from it. To call only at night sounds very funny. It sounds as if he has to wait for his lil’ lady at home and possibly his children to fall asleep first before calling you. He may even have a “guys night out” on Friday, and this is how he gets out of the house.
My suggestion is to get out of this relationship while you can. You could back away from him and not call him during the week. See if he tries to initiate any contact other than Friday. If he does not, then go somewhere different on Friday. So that you will not bump into him. What makes him so incredible in the first place? Is it because he is so good looking, funny, and knows how to make you feel good by saying the right things? Don’t you want and deserve a guy that is just as crazy about you as you are about him?
You could always boldly ask him if he is married, but don’t count on his answer to be factual, because, how many cheaters are going to admit to it? Bring up why he only calls at night. Tell him it sounds funny to you. Let him know that you deserve to be with someone that wants to be with you on a regular basis and not someone that gets “Penciled in”
Always,
Marsha
